Good look isn’t the only validation we crave. Good look isn’t the only validation we give. We are prone to seek validation than giving validation to others. Still, you will find some people are too good to validate others without being asked. Where the receiver receives validation happily or may not reciprocate the validation as a truthful complement. Seeking validation is a very natural trait of human being no matter how much you think you are self-reliant and you don’t need validation.

Being in the side of providing validation, how many time have you thought it is important to validate someone else as well? Most of the time you might be thinking – “ah! why do i need to validate someone for tiny little things, they already know they are capable of doing great things, they already know how wonderful they are, they already know how beautiful they are and I am also jealous of how they are doing everything, my complement wouldn’t matter or just boost their ego. I don’t want to give them my validation to add up to their confidence.“

And when the same you receive a complement from a giver, you feel “I surely deserve it, I am far better than what I was thinking“. But, you aren’t that deserving if you aren’t capable of appreciating and validating others verbally. You don’t know how positively you might impact someone’s life when you validate them. If you even do it wholeheartedly, they will always remember you.

From childhood, I am a natural giver. For me, it is so easy and I am very quick to admire anything. Not to please someone. I am naturally appreciative and with that, I am naturally capable of validating others at any given moment. I have seen people’s eyes brighten up with a small little validation like “I am so proud of you”, I know you will do it”, ” you look fancy”.

On the other hand, I rarely receive validation or complement. I am good at validating myself as well. But, at some point, when I am low in mood, I question myself, am I really good enough? And I don’t see anyone around me seemed to notice I am seeking for validation. The moment always pass by and I feel alright again. Am I seeking validation here while writing? Maybe yes, maybe no. But, am I self reliant? maybe not that much.

Validating someone around you could be really powerful. Validate people who validates you. We all need it.